A Few Thoughts Before Mother’s Day

Ever since I moved away from home 19 years ago, I have a different perspective on holidays. Most holidays don’t have the same meaning any more, because I refuse to go by what the TV commercials and the calendar tell me, I go with my heart. When it comes to Mother’s Day, I choose to treat my Mom as it was Mother’s Day all year round.

Screen Shot 2015-05-04 at 5.06.17 PMIn the United States every holiday is just another reason to advertise and push the merchandize. “Buy this, buy that,
make you Mom happy this Mother’s Day…”, and so on.
I am not encouraging to ignore the holiday. I am just saying that Mother’s Day brunch reservations in the fanciest place in town may not be what you should focus on. How about taking your Mom to brunch twice a month? How about giving her flowers for no reason, not just on Mother’s Day?

The most valuable gift you can give your Mom is your time. Because you can’t buy time and mail it in an envelope. Time is priceless and you can’t get it back. Time spent with your Mother is a true gesture of appreciation of her, who gave you a gift of a life time.

Expensive gifts on Mother’s Day will not make up for the rest of the year. Let your Mom know how much you love her every day, spend time with her, spoil her. Because you don’t want to have any regrets, and wish you did all of these things when she was still around.

IMG_2508-2I miss my Mom, and she lives half way across the world. I don’t have the luxury of taking her out for lunch, or driving over for a week-end. But I am in touch with her all the time, and I cherish every moment we get to share together. As difficult as my Mom can be sometimes, I treat her with a great amount of patience and respect all year round, not just on Mother’s Day.

May be I just turn into a big sap as I get older, but it’s so very sad for me to see that some people I know don’t give their mothers the attention they deserve. We all use “I am so busy, I don’t have any free time” excuse. Well, I just don’t buy it.  In my opinion if you find time for gym, nail appointments, concerts and such you sure can sacrifice a few hours a week out of your busy schedule to spend with your Mom in person or via Skype.

I understand, it may be very hard sometimes to witness our parents get older, talk about their health problems and give them the moral support they need. We tend to subconsciously avoid things that cause us mental pain, make us feel sad and helpless. We just don’t want to deal with the emotions that are hard to control, and build a wall of excuses as to why it’s not a good time for a phone call right now or a trip to see Mom this week-end.

IMG_0528Do you know what will hurt even more? The endless regrets about the time you did not spend with your parents when they were still around.

You have to learn how to be strong,  to be able to be there for your Mom and Dad in the down times when they need you the most.

Mother’s Day is just around the corner. Think about giving your Mom a gift of your time for as long as she is around.

You Are Beautiful!

I am a strong believer that every woman is beautiful! You just have to awaken your beauty from the inside and build you confidence!

I was born and raised in Russia, where the supply of good looking ladies is never short and it is really hard to stand out. I was no beauty queen growing up, in fact I was very far from being cute. Here is a picture from the wall of academic honor in my school. I was 13. Yes, boys made fun of me, girls did not want to be friends with me, I was very shy and insecure, I cried a lot …

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What changed? How did I go from being an ugly ducklin to gracing on the covers of magazines? The answer is by believing in myself, by letting go of my childhood insecurities and following my dreams. As a teenager I spent countless hours in front of the mirror, putting on make up and changing my hair color just to figure out what look would give me most confidence.

Now I am convinced, that if was able to have a modeling career in this life time, most of my readers can too!

I was never one of those girls that wake up naturally beautiful every morning. My “beauty” takes some work. I can’t just roll out of bed and go to a photo shoot, like some of my model friends do. To be completely honest I still don’t think much of the way I look, I just have a few beauty tricks up my sleeve, that bring out that beauty queen confidence in me.

That’s why I am starting this blog by saying to every single one of my readers: YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Hold your head up high, because you are beautiful! Inspire and empower yourself because no one will do it for you! This is where it all starts, right here, right now. You are one of a kind and there is no other unique beauty like yourself in the entire world (unless you have an identical twin). You have to learn to love yourself and this is the very first rule of being and feeling beautiful.